Turning Birthday blues into gratitude

Please tell me its not just me…every year when my birthday rolls around I feel a little bit of the birthday blues…but I also see it as the beginning of a new year. It’s a time when I get to reset, even when I think “what the heck did I do all year?” and I get into panic mode and start trying to finish all the projects that I started and neglected in hopes of getting them done by May 1st. Isn’t that so silly?

I would feel pressured, overwhelmed and anxious, as if I’m not where I should be in life, I start to question every aspect of work, life, balance, and start beating myself up for not doing as well as I think I should have.

Which is why I usually like to go away to some place warm and beautiful for my birthday to relax, to silence the negative self talk, and remind myself there is more to life then the jibber jabber in my head.

My fondest memory was from 2013 when I went to South East Asia. It initially started off as a two week vacation to Thailand with a good friend, when she left I decided to keep on going… I had no idea where to go or for how long, but I knew it was my opportunity to take at that time so I followed my heart.

I’ve heard of Bali before and thought “Yes! Let’s go!”…. I didn’t know what part of Bali I wanted to visit, which hotel I was staying at, nothing was booked, I started asking people on the plane where they were headed haha 😂 they must have thought I was insane or a stalker 🤪 because I had ZERO plans. I felt like a true traveler, allowing the journey to take me where it wanted. I knew if I didn’t like one place I could always go to the next destination. I immersed myself in every country’s culture, loving the unique experience each place had to offer.  Vietnam was the best…just saying!

I felt like I was living my best life, I was young (ish), wild, and free!
I took the road less traveled, with no agenda, I was not thinking about the next Instagram worthy shot (I didn’t even know what IG was lol), I was not thinking about work, I knew if I didn’t have a job once I got back I could always find another job.  Basically I had no one to care for, but myself.

I was completely in trust with the Universe, present in the moment, enjoying every second of my journey fully aware I may not get this chance again…and it took me to the most gorgeous and spectacular views.
I ended up traveling for 2.5 months to Thailand, Indonesia, Vietnam and Cambodia and had the best time of my life….with my best friend…me!
And I’m so glad I allowed myself that indulgence, giving myself the gift of experience.

Two short years after my trip, so much changed, solo trip experiences temporarily forgotten, my life still looks very different now…with great  challenges comes great reward, and becoming a mother has been the BIGGEST reward.  Who would have thought I’d be a mom AND a business owner all at the same time! Isn’t life so trippy?

These days I hardly have any time to myself. I have my good days and my fair share of bad days too, but something that remains constant is that I still have that inner knowing in my heart that no matter how tough life gets, the Universe will always balance itself out, and that gives me great comfort during uncertain times like these.

As women, we are always thinking of others, we nurture our relationships with everyone around us. But what about you?  Yes.. YOU! the beautiful person reading this!!! 

I believe and recognize more now than ever as a mother, that I cannot fulfill my purpose and be a good mom if I feel depleted of love for myself. I cannot give if I don’t have enough in my own cup, I need to keep my cup full in order to take care of another person.

This birthday while we are still social distancing I want to take the time to reconnect with myself…I hope you will join me. Understand that it’s okay to take time for yourself, in fact, we need to if we want to have a strong mental game.

With that in mind, I’d like to remind myself to follow my inner wisdom, know that I am in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing.

“There is no need to struggle to be better. All I need to do is love myself more today than yesterday and treat myself as someone who is deeply loved. I AM GOOD ENOUGH.” ~ Louise Hay

I hope this resonated with you, and if you’re feeling blue on your birthday or any day like I did, remember to turn your blues into gratitude, let go of your limitations and recognize the true beauty of your being and walk the path of your own heart. 

With love and gratitude,

Wendy

Happy International Women’s Day!

Today is International Women’s Day, a day to celebrate women empowering each other, and to appreciate being a woman, but honestly…I didn’t always feel that way. 
Many of you may not know that when I started Beauty Babe Lounge, I had a partner. That partnership was short lived. A month after our grand-opening she decided to leave the business because she wasn’t receiving the income that she desired.  
Needless to say, I was blindsided and crushed because she was my friend, but I wasn’t about to sign over my company. I stood my ground and as a result she somehow persuaded our clients to leave with her. I was left with a huge space, a long list of expenses on the 1st of December which was supposed to be our busiest month. 
Starting from scratch was terrifying, I wasn’t sure I could do it alone. However, instead of feeling sorry for myself I enrolled in multiple courses to better my skills, I joined various industry groups for support and blocked all the social media outlets that did not serve me. 
I didn’t see the situation as a loss, but more of a gain. I gained more self-confidence, gained more business knowledge, and empathy in order to forgive and let go. Of course it sucks to be deceived by a friend, but I later realized that she did me a favour. She showed me my growth potential, that I am capable of so much more and it lit a fire underneath me to do better. 
And while all of this was happening my daughter was only a year old and my relationship with her dad was also coming to an end. When times are difficult it could feel like your world is crumbling, but it helps to know that something better will be waiting on the other side of the hardship. That your hardest day could be your best day, which is something I continue to remind myself in order to move forward. 
Now, three years later I have managed to keep my business afloat, my clientele continues to grow, I thrive on challenges, and I am a very proud single mom. We women are so resilient, we are strong, we are survivors, we deal with so much and often wear many hats at a time, that’s because we are capable of so much. 
And as much as I’d like to take the credit when clients ask me “How did you manage everything on your own?” Well, the truth is…I didn’t, I could not have done it without the encouragement and support of my loyal clients, the many wonderful women that mentored me along my journey, and my close personal circle of girlfriends. I could see now that we are better together, and it should be about community not competition. 
To all the ladies that have impacted and inspired me in my journey, I celebrate you. 
                                         HAPPY INTERNATIONAL WOMEN’S DAY!
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